Embracing Singleness as a Gift

A Biblical Perspective on the Waiting Season

What does your “waiting season” look like, and how can you make the most of it? In 1 Corinthians 7:32–34 (NLT), Paul offers a powerful reminder:

“I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking about how to please Him… But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband.”

God doesn’t want us wasting time dwelling on why we aren’t married or questioning the absence of our ordained spouse. (That’s not to say God doesn’t desire to give us the desires of our hearts.) Instead, He calls us to be intentional—seeking His will and stewarding this season well.

After two years of what I called “focusing on myself,” I recently decided to step back into the dating scene—more specifically, dating apps. But if I’m being honest, it wasn’t truly self-focus. It was hiding. I was avoiding rejection, wrestling with the standards I had set, and navigating the reality of dating as a Christian woman.

When I finally decided to try again, I told God I was inviting Him into the process—no excuses this time. I wanted it to be different. With every match and every interaction, I prayed. I asked God for discernment, to weed out those who weren’t serious or were lukewarm in their faith.

You know the ones I’m talking about—the people who say, “I just want to find a genuine connection and see where things go.” Or my personal favorite: when I asked a man about conflict resolution, and he told me my question was too deep. I couldn’t help but think—are we dating with intention, or just convenience?

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A Story of a Single Woman in the Bible

When I think of a particular woman in the Bible, one name comes to mind. And no—it’s not Ruth (though her story is absolutely worth exploring, and we will). The woman I’m referring to is Mary, the sister of Martha and Lazarus.

In Luke 10:38–42, Jesus and His disciples visit the village of Bethany, where the sisters welcome Him into their home. Martha is busy preparing a large meal, while Mary chooses a different posture—she sits at Jesus’ feet, listening to His every word.

Frustrated, Martha asks Jesus to tell Mary to help her. But Jesus gently corrects her, saying:

“There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her!” (Luke 10:42, NLT)

This passage beautifully illustrates what God is calling us to do in this season—to be like Mary. To prioritize His presence, to sit at His feet, and to seek Him daily.

Singleness is not a curse—it is a gracious gift. It’s a season where God can have our undivided attention, where we can deepen our relationship with Him without distraction. And nothing brings Him more joy than our full devotion.

This is our time to allow God to use us—our gifts, talents, businesses, and even our social media platforms—to shine His light and fulfill the purpose He has placed within us. As 1 Peter 4:10 (NLT) reminds us:

“God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.”

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The Difference Between Loneliness and Solitude

What does it mean to be lonely? According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, loneliness is defined as “being without company.” In contrast, solitude is “the act of being alone.” Though they may sound similar, they are vastly different.

Loneliness is often a space where we look to others to fill an internal void. And let me be clear—this is a judgment-free zone. I’ve been there too. But Scripture invites us to move beyond loneliness and into wholeness.

Psalm 16:11 (NLT) declares:

“You will show me the way of life, granting me the joy of your presence and the pleasures of living with you forever.”

This verse reminds us that God’s presence is enough to fill every empty space. As we immerse ourselves in Him daily, we begin to crave His companionship more than anything else.

When our hearts are anchored in Christ, our cups no longer need to be filled by temporary vices that leave us empty and unfulfilled. As Psalm 23:5–6 (NLT) states:

“You honor me by anointing my head with oil. My cup overflows with blessings. Surely your goodness and unfailing love will pursue me all the days of my life.”

God is actively pursuing an intimate relationship with you. And it is through communion with Him that we step into true wholeness.